Neurotic Newlyweds Need Nookie

January 7 11

A New Study Shows, Frequent Sex Protects Neurotic People's Marital Happiness

People who are neurotic are less satisfied in romance and relationships, and when they get married they are more likely to divorce. But a new study has revealed that if neurotic newlyweds have frequent sexual relations, their marital satisfaction is every bit as high as their less neurotic counterparts.

Neuroticism is the tendency to experience negative emotion, and people who are high in it get upset and irritated easily, change their mood often, and worry frequently. High levels of neuroticism are more strongly associated with bad marital outcomes than any other personality factor," said Michelle Russell and James McNulty of the University of Tennessee, authors of the study.But sex in marriage seems to make people happy-other research has shown that sexual interactions improved the next day's mood. Russell and McNulty wanted to know if frequent sexual activity would erase the negative effects of neuroticism.

They followed 72 newlywed couples over the first four years of their marriage; both spouses reported-separately and privately-on their marital satisfaction and sexual frequency every six months… full article

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Why We Swing

January 7 11

by Cooper

I’m not going to spend a whole lot of time going into philosophical reasons for swinging, or even anthropological ones (though there are many for both) in this forum, because what I’ve found is that people tend to invent the philosophical and anthropological reasoning as a way of validating their chosen lifestyle. Buncha hypocrites! So instead, I’m focused more on why WE swing, the WE being my wife and myself. And we got into it for all the wrong reasons (according to most websites and books,) because we got into the lifestyle to fix something in our marriage. 

WOAH! I know, right? Never become a swinger unless your relationship is perfect because swinging will magnify all your problems and blah blah snore… I’m sure there is a lot of validity to that, I’m SURE of it. Swinging has magnified problems, but again as this is a Why WE Swing story and not a Why THEY Swing, or Why ONE Swings, I can assure you that for us, swinging was the answer to a question that had been nagging us since the beginning of our lives together some 10 years before. Why do we want to fuck other people? 

And from the looks of our friends and loved ones, we were not alone in this thought. Look at sitcoms on TV if you need more proof. I don’t think there’s a “fat guy/cute wife” sitcom out there that hasn’t done the “why did you look at that other girl, does she have something I don’t” plotline at some point in its run. We’re dishonest though, as a society, because we want so desperately for this to make him “the bad guy.” But don’t worry, ‘cuz they laugh and love their way through it, mostly giving a resounding assurance that “I love you and don’t need anyone else, honey…” AWWWWW…  … full article

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Non-Monogamy & Feminism

January 7 11

A Happy Coupling

When I started reading about nonmonogamy, I began to realize that a lot of the appeal for me came from how closely it fell in line with my feminist beliefs. Because I've been socialized to see monogamy as the default, even within the feminist circles I've been part of, this seemed to me counterintuitive at first. But after a while, I realized that this was based on misconceptions of nonmonogamy and everything clicked in my head. There are two things in particular that helped me make this connection.

For starters, what I've heard, read, and witnessed over and over again is that nonmonogamy requires each person to be completely honest with themselves first and foremost. Each person must be open to exploring their needs, and must have a sense of what they want before taking action. So often in our society, we are expected to go along with things blindly. A set of rules exists that people hardly ever question. We are meant to follow a roadmap created centuries ago, even though the roads on that map have since changed or completely disappeared. We are led to believe that once you're committed to somebody, you've now become one. Women especially are generally expected to put themselves last. They must worry about their children husbands, parents, jobs, household chores, etc. all before thinking about themselves. As feminists, we recognize that this should not be the case. And in a nonmonogamous relationship, this can't be the case because you aren't successful unless you're navigating according to your needs and desires… full article

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Erotica: Confessions of a Feminist Submissive – Part 3

January 7 11

The 100% true story of my re-acquaintance with BDSM and myself.

by NovaSmut

Read Part 1 HERE

Read Part 2 HERE

At 9:42am I send this text message to C: “So, my night ended at 6am. I just woke up on the couch of a fabulous couple; she’s a pro domme who likes to get topped by her dommy bf. I don’t think you know them. (MT) brought me here last night and *everyone* did *very* dirty things to me. they want to come to the party tonight, quite desperately in fact, if that’s possible. FYI. No pressure. I will remain forever grateful for the invite last night, as well as the introduction to your British dommy lover. Great fun was had. I fucking love it here!”

C @ 9:43: “I’m hungry and hungover. Those were a lot of words.”

Me @ 9:49: “Pinky quoted you last night as saying when you’re overwhelmed: ‘there’s a lot going on right now.’ Yeah me too. My head hurts. And the bottoms of my feet. I met the cane last night, for the first time. Sweet baby jesus on a stick ”

C @ 9:51: “Abundant stimulation.” And “I think I need dim sum.” And “the pillow on my head feels good.”

Me @ 9:53: “uh huh. I’m in so much pain right now but I’m ok with it. I never managed to get his number in my fits of submissive bliss; can you fwd plz? Kthxbye. Also I owe you *big* time for the intro. There was abundant chemistry, to say the least.” And “Lemme know if you do brunch and I’ll meet you. Lol @ me getting dim sum in last night’s outfit. I think I need to nap all day.”

C @ 9:56: “Yes nap. Will possibly rally. Maybe. In a minute.”

Me @ 10:01: “I need a beer and some sort of nourishment, copious amts of water, and def herb  . I’d love to come decomp with you. Say the word and I’ll come there instead of cabbing myself downtown. No pressure though. Oh *god* my head hurts. Who’s idea was it to have a fracking party on NYEE?!”

C @ 10:03: “come over. I’ll get in the shower and rally a dim sum crew. You can borrow clothes if you want. Frack.”

Me @ 10:04: “ok I will commence with walk of shame. This is gonna be a good one. When I move here I’m finding collapsible sunglasses to carry with me at all times.”… full article

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Ask CoupleDoingIt

January 7 11

If you have a question about The Lifestyle for CoupleDoingIt, email them at swingers@coupledoingit.com

Dear CoupleDoingIt,

We are a new to the swinging lifestyle and are just really starting to look into it deeply. However, in everything that we have read no one has touched upon the subject of STD’s. Our question to you is, are there any statistics regarding STD’s and the lifestyle? We love the thought of the lifestyle, but until we know more about this we are not really sure if it is worth the risk. Any info will help. Thanks for your time.

Sincerely,

Hypochondriac Nymphomaniacs

Dear Hypochondriac Nymphomaniacs,

Until “swinger” is added as a checkbox on the US Census questionnaire, we will never have any kind of accurate statistics about ourselves as a community. What I can tell you is that the most recent STD studies from the Center for Disease Control state that most of the STD’s in the United States are found in high school and college age kids, low income African-American neighborhoods and the Gay community (summarized from various diseases). Swingers were nowhere on their list… In fact, I did a search for the word “swingers” on the CDC website and it came up with zero results. Not what you would expect if the swinger community were swimming with STDs.

In my research, I was only able to find one reported case of HIV being contracted through a "swinging" encounter. In 1986 two women in Minneapolis contracted HIV through repeated unprotected anal sex with two bi-sexual men who were IV drug users. This situation is hardly typical of normal swinger behavior. In fact, some people might argue as to whether this even counts as a “swinger related incident”, as the only thing that ties it to the swinging lifestyle is that the people involved apparently met at a swinger club, even though the actual sex act took place elsewhere. Still, I’d say that one documented incident in the past 20+ years in an extremely sexually active community is pretty fucking amazing! In addition, none of the countries in the world that have large numbers of legal swingers clubs have ever reported any increase in STD infections in the vicinity of swinging premises or in relation to swinging in general.

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Get Naughty in N’awlins, FREE!

January 7 11

If you have not heard yet, Naughty in N’awlins will be THE LoveVoodoo Event in US in 2011. Since 1999, Naughty in N’awlins has been the most popular lifestyle event in the country. Where else does the City shut down their main street (Bourbon St.) and let 1,000 sexy swingers throw a parade? Only in New Orleans!

For the rest of January we will be running a very different type of photo contest. We would like you to use one of our free LoveVoodoo bumper stickers and take a photo of it stuck at a unique place. Be creative, and feel free to put it anywhere you want, but do not get in trouble. Members who would like to participate need to email their name, mailing address, and the number of stickers they would like to receive to info@lovevoodootravel. We will mail the stickers immediately, so you are able to take photos as soon as possible. You can also obtain stickers at Tabu Social Club. The prize is Huge: A FREE convention package for Naughty in N’awlins (July 5-10, 2011) and Lifetime membership on LoveVoodoo!

Naughty in N’awlins is absolutely our favorite convention! We have been attending it for the last 5 years and each time we had a great time. It is actually the only convention that we attend personally year after year. This year we want to invite our members to join us and make this event the official LoveVoodoo Convention. We will be there on Tuesday. Make sure you come in early so you can catch the famous Wednesday Swingers Parade on Bourbon street. The night will be kicked off with a great Welcome Reception featuring free body painting, free shrimp and shucked oysters while listening to New Orleans' hottest band. Then we will head out onto Bourbon St to form up the parade. There will be a Police escort, Mardi Gras floats, a Brass Band and lot's more. We will Parade all the way to Colette for big kick off party!  … full article

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The Freedom Cruise!

January 7 11

Freedom of the Seas, Nov 11th, 2012

Enjoy the Freedom of an Adults Only Vacation!

When is the last time you took a vacation or a cruise and there were no kids running around? When is the last time you went out and didn't have to deal with a club full of singles that just didn't get it?

If you like LoveVoodoo Fest, Naughty in N'awlins, Clothing Optional Beaches, Exotic Destinations, Las Vegas, and high energy nightlife, then you'll love the Freedom Cruise.

What would you do for the freedom to meet hundreds of other like-minded couples on the high seas? The freedom to bare it all, in a saltwater pool by the moonlight? The freedom to dance until the sun comes up, the freedom to explore your sensual side?

Join LoveVoodoo on the Freedom of the Seas for the largest ever lifestyle party at sea, with over 1800 couples!

We are taking over one of the largest cruise ships in the world. At the time of its inaugural journey, this ship was the largest cruise ship in the world, boasting a length of 136 meters long and over 150,000 tons. The Freedom of the Seas has 15 decks, a passenger capacity of almost 3,700, and a crew of over 1300 to cater to your every whim.

It doesn't end there.

Enjoy the Freedom of Clothing Optional Sailing

She has three swimming pools, including the world's first cantilevered whirlpools on each side of the ship. Where you can skinny dip to your hearts desire… full article

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Colorful Fantasies

January 7 11

August 13-20, 2011 – Negril, Jamaica

ColorfulFantasies.com If you are Chocolate looking for a little Vanilla, or Vanilla looking for a little Chocolate, you will be able to satisfy your craving at Colorful Fantasies.

Colorful Fantasies is a Lifestyle event to help couples and singles from different racial backgrounds to fulfill there wildest fantasies, and we be held on the white sand beaches of the world famous Hedonism II resort located in Negril, Jamaica. Hedonism II is a Super All Inclusive resort. Everything… I mean everything is included: food, entertainment, drinks, water sports, you name it, it's included, even transportation from the airport!

At LoveVoodoo.com we believe that Variety is the Spice of Life, if you agree we will see you at Hedo II!

Book a trip to Colorful Fantasies or Goddess Week and get 3 FREE NIGHTS when you book your trip to LoveVoodoo Fest 2011!

Click Here for Colorful Fantasies Information and Booking!

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LoveVoodoo Fest 2011 is Selling Like Crazy!

January 7 11

LoveVoodoo Fest 2011 continues to sell like swinging hot cakes! If you have any intention of going, we highly recommend you put down a deposit ASAP to secure your room! It's only a $200 deposit to guarantee your spot!

Check out the full list of LoveVoodoo Fest 2011 Activities here!

Why is this the year to go to Hedonism?

Because 2011 is Hedonism's 30th anniversary! There will be many exciting announcments and we are even setting up a Hedonism 30th Anniversary website, which will be updated monthly by the Hedonism staff with important announcements. For those of you that cannot make the event we will broadcast portions of it live on a website that is currently under construction. Stay tuned!

Get the room you want!

HedonismFest.com We are already running out of many room categories at LoveVoodoo Fest 2011. Jacuzzi suites are 100% sold and we are running low on prude rooms, so you need to book now if you want them.

How's this for a deal?…

If you book a trip to Goddess Week, Colorful Fantasies or Big on the Beach, you will receive 3 free nights at LoveVoodoo Fest 2011. It will be a good way to extend your week during LoveVoodoo Fest, which run for 9 days in 2011.Contact Sherry at LoveVoodoo Travel ASAP to secure your room.

There will be all sorts of great activities, and special events, including a Ms LoveVoodoo Fest Contest!, the LoveVooDoo.com cocktail party, the LoveVooDoo "Play Lounge" open nightly, private pool parties, private beach parties, an excursion to Ricks Cafe, and many cool party themes nightly in the Disco. This will be the event that everyone will be talking about and will sell out quickly.

Don't miss out! BOOK NOW! If you are a "newbie" this is a great place to get involved in the Lifestyle. You can get as wild as you want or just relax on the beach with your partner. Absolutely Everything at Hedo II is included! Scuba Diving, Snorkeling, Games, All food, and most importantly All DRINKS! We guarantee you will leave LoveVooDoo Fest 2011 with a smile on your face! You DO NOT need to be a member of LoveVooDoo.com to attend the trip; however we would love to have you!

Book Any of the Following Trips and Get 3 FREE NIGHTS at LoveVoodoo Fest 2011!

Click here for more information

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Last Chance to Book Goddess Week 2011!

January 7 11

A message from Sherry, of LoveVoodoo Travel

Dear LoveVoodoo Nooz Readers,

I called the sales manager at Hedonism II today to see how many rooms we have left for Goddess week and found out that there are less than 35 still available! 245 have been sold. We have a group rate that is about 20% lower than the rate at the resort; however, that rate will go up on the 5th! That means you MUST book by this Tuesday to get the low rate! We also have a couple of Jacuzzi Suites left which are VERY cool! If you have been thinking about going, now is the time to make the decision.

To learn more about this event, view the activities schedule or see some of the people who are going, go to www.goddessweek.com

Send me an email or give me a call with any questions you may have.

Sherry
LoveVoodoo Travel
lovevoodootravel@mail.com
1-866-408-1369

Click Here for Goddess Week Information and Booking!

About Goddess Week…

March 5th – 12th, 2011 – Negril, Jamaica

Goddess week is almost sold out and we expect this to be a full takeover! This will be the event everyone will be talking about in 2011.

Goddess Week is an event for Couples, Single men and Single Women, but in the end it is all about the ladies! For one week forget about the kids, your overbearing boss, your incompetent employees, and your husband leaving the toilet seat up! Relax on the beach and allow us to serve your every need! Scantily-clad muscle-bound men, serving you Champagne and chocolate covered strawberries, then return to your room to find rose petals on your bed and your bath drawn! The staff of LoveVoodoo Travel and Hedonism II will take care of everything. If your husband asks "Honey while you are up, will you get me a drink?" we will send him home!!

Fellas! If you are taking your lady all the way to Jamaica you might as well go first class! Consider booking a Jacuzzi suite! When you reserve a Jacuzzi Suite you will be welcomed with a complimentary fruit tray, a bottle of champagne on ice, and LoveVoodoo Gift pack with a value of over $200.00! The package also includes One Free 30 Min Massage – Compliments of LoveVoodoo

This will be a sold out trip, so we suggest you book early to ensure you get the room category you want.

Even though this event is centered around women, there is something for everyone. Whether you are a couple looking to explore you sexual limitations, or a single looking for a unique experience. Goddess Week is guaranteed to fulfill your most Hedonistic desires! We are often asked if this is a couples trip, and the answer is, no. There are a lot of couples on the trip looking to make connections with other couples and singles, however, there are always plenty of single men and women looking to make new friends also.

Sunday night we will have an upscale dress to impress cocktail party on the pool deck to get the week started. Each night we will feature different female entertainers, and a special "male review" just for the ladies! There will be games, fun theme nights, parties in the night club, gourmet food, drink service on the beach, and we will end the week with a huge party on the beach, with all you can eat lobster, entertainment, and a bon fire.

See the full list of Goddess Week Activities here!